8 Signs a Man is in Feminine Energy

May 20. 2024

We live in a world of contrasts. There are people who are traditional and people who are liberal. Those who believe that chivalry is dead and those who receive princess treatment. It’s an impressive mix and there’s plenty for everybody, but some things may be a bit more difficult to navigate. All you need is a bit of awareness. Let’s explore the signs a man is in feminine energy.

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The Importance of Polarity

Relationships (any relationships) work based on polarity. If you’d like to marry a masculine energy man, there’s only one way for you to attract one. It’s for you to take care of your part of this polarity by adopting more feminine energy. It’s something you can work on yourself, while using your boy energy in a healthy way.

Masculine energy men love feminine energy women. They make them feel like a provider. Men are obsessed with making those they love happy. This polarity works because a man can be of service and provide you with things you cannot get yourself, like safety, confinement to express and process your emotions, and time to relax and find your peace. Feminine energy women love masculine energy men because with them they finally feel at peace and taken care of.

We all crave this feeling of safety and love and we often look for it in a partner.

Something we often overlook is that men who pour into women, get back tenfold. Give a woman ingredients, and she’ll make you a meal. Give her a house, and she’ll turn it into a home. Bring her your seed, and she will come back with a baby. Give her stress, and you’ll harvest hell. Give her peace and love, and you’ll harvest yourself a happy life in fulfilment.

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How the Modern World Tricked Us

In this beautiful, fast-paced world, we can find proof that these are the worst times to live in, and we can also find proof for the opposite. I want to see the positives, so I think there’s plenty for everyone. It’s just a bit more tricky to navigate the world to find what we want.

But here’s what most people miss: we are the creators of our own reality. The patterns we see in our relationships aren’t just happening to us – they’re reflecting what’s happening within us.

Nowadays, we as a society have produced a huge number of masculine energy women. This is due to dysfunctional households, multigenerational traumas passed from parents to children, and the inability to express and understand our emotions.

Women raised in homes with a strong woman who was let down by a man will pass her mistrust to her daughters. Young women who didn’t have a loving father figure will struggle to feel deserving of love. Poverty also creates masculine women, putting them in constant survival mode.

And here’s where the law of polarity comes in: if you’re predominantly in your masculine energy (doing, striving, controlling), you’ll naturally attract partners in their feminine energy – or men who haven’t stepped into their masculine power. Like attracts like in frequency, but opposites attract in polarity. This isn’t about blame; it’s about awareness.

The gift of independence?

We got the gift of independence, but with this, we also got the constant dwelling in survival mode. The good news is that even if we became this way not by our own admission, we can be the catalyst for a change in our lives! When we shift our internal energy, our external reality follows.

This is why I created The Unwavering Creator 7-Day Challenge – to help you reclaim your power to consciously create from your feminine essence rather than unconsciously react from survival patterns. First we need to know the signs a man is in feminine energy, so we can recognize the mirror being held up to us.

What is a Masculine Energy Man

A masculine energy man embodies qualities such as decisiveness, confidence, and a strong sense of purpose. He is action-oriented, often taking the lead in various aspects of life, from career ambitions to relationship dynamics. This type of man values independence, clarity, and structure, and he typically thrives in environments where he can set goals and work towards achieving them. His presence is often reassuring and stabilising, providing a sense of direction and security.

In a relationship, a masculine energy man can greatly benefit a feminine energy woman by creating a balanced dynamic. Feminine energy is characterised by qualities like nurturing, creativity, and emotional expressiveness. When a masculine energy man brings stability and direction to the relationship, it allows the feminine energy woman to feel safe and supported, enabling her to express her emotions and creativity freely.

This balance creates a harmonious partnership where both individuals can flourish, each complementing the other’s strengths and compensating for their weaknesses. Through his confidence and decisiveness, the masculine energy man can help the feminine energy woman feel more grounded, while her nurturing nature can soften and enrich his life, fostering mutual growth and fulfilment. This is not for insecure women, though. You must be resilient and know your worth to receive, instead of showing a man that you can do it yourself. It’s a woman’s hurt ego, and men don’t want to compete with their women at all.

And, more importantly, it must feel safe to receive.

Signs He’s in His Feminine Energy

How can you recognise a man with feminine energy? Note that we cannot have two drivers of a car, so if there’s already a figure taking charge, there’s no space for a man to step into this role. If you want your man to start changing gradually, you should create space for him to step in by becoming more passive when action is needed. Let him take action and be patient and understanding.

I work in an office surrounded by men. Receiving their small acts of masculine energy is fun, like when I need something lifted, I ask them kindly and they are always eager to help out. I love this about men. However, some of them are clearly very much in their feminine energy and wait for others to take charge. I don’t judge, but it makes me want to jump in and do it myself. I need to be patient, though, and let them step into the role of a leader.

Here are the signs a man is in feminine energy:

1. His partner is in her masculine energy

Here’s the truth that might sting a little: if you’re constantly with men who seem passive, indecisive, or emotionally dependent – you’re not unlucky. You’re in your masculine energy.

When a woman operates from masculine energy, there’s no space for the man to step up, take action, and make decisions – she’s already doing that for both of them. Nature abhors a vacuum, and energy seeks balance. If you’re leading, planning, initiating, and problem-solving, he’ll naturally fall into the receptive, feminine role.

If this dynamic works for both partners, then it’s perfect. However, most women living this way don’t realize they have a choice. They think they have to be this way, which only makes them more tired and deeper in survival mode, feeling like everything is on their shoulders. It’s exhausting and difficult to recover from.

But here’s the empowering part: you created this dynamic, which means you can uncreate it. The moment you recognize that you’re holding the masculine pole in your relationship, you’ve found the key to transformation. You don’t need to change him, fix him, or find a “better” man. You need to release the grip on control and remember how to receive.

This is the core principle I teach in The Unwavering Creator 7-Day Challenge – shifting from the exhausting masculine energy of making things happen to the magnetic feminine energy of allowing things to flow to you.

2. He doesn’t make important decisions and leaves it to his partner

He is passive and dependent on what she says. A wise man will ask his woman for her opinion when it comes to decisions. He may or may not take this advice, but he will value her opinion. However, when choosing a partner, make sure it’s someone whose judgement you trust so that he can make decisions while you relax, knowing he will do his best for the sake of the entire family, without the need to micromanage him.

3. He doesn’t plan dates and holidays

Each household splits the chores how they see fit. However, if many years into the relationship he doesn’t initiate dates, outings, or holidays together, but leaves it to his partner to take care of it, he’s not a very action-oriented individual. Taking action, having a sense of self-agency, and making things happen are masculine energy traits.

4. He doesn’t mind if his partner is babying him

A man with wounded masculine energy will show signs of over-sensitivity. He often struggles with self-confidence, independence, and taking responsibility. He may seek nurturing and caretaking from his partner to fill the gaps left by his unmet emotional needs, displaying dependency and a lack of assertiveness.

5. He enjoys receiving more than giving

A man with more feminine energy may struggle with setting clear boundaries in the relationship. He might have difficulty saying “no” or asserting his needs, leading to an imbalance in give-and-take dynamics. Maybe he also struggles with generosity towards his partner, believing that a woman only wants material goods, rather than recognising the masculine need to give of himself. He might be stingy.

6. He doesn’t have professional drive to achieve more to support his family

He’s more than happy to go 50/50 with his partner and prefers chilling rather than working on himself. A man not having a clear sense of purpose or direction in life, or lacking goals and ambitions, may be exhibiting qualities more aligned with feminine energy. It might be fear of success and not being able to handle it when it comes, or some other underlying issues.

7. He doesn’t have active hobbies and enjoys relaxing and chilling more

Men with strong masculine energy often spend much of their day in their minds, analysing and strategizing. To counterbalance this mental activity and allow their minds to rest, engaging in active hobbies is essential. Physical health and strength are crucial aspects of how many men perceive and value themselves. In nature, physical strength is a defining attribute of males in many species. Therefore, working out is beneficial not only for the body but also for the mind and their masculine self-esteem.

8. He doesn’t regularly ask you what he can help you with or what you need

This is a crucial of signs a man is in feminine energy – men are obsessed with making their partners happy. A masculine energy man loves to be a hero for his partner. If your man doesn’t regularly ask how he can help alleviate some chores for you or create a safe space for you to relax, he’s either in his feminine energy or he doesn’t love you that much. Because a man who cares will do his best to improve your life and do something for you that you can’t do yourself.

What these signs are really telling Us

If you’ve recognized several of these signs a man is in feminine energy in your partner, take a breath. This moment of awareness might feel uncomfortable, but it’s actually the beginning of your transformation.

Here’s the truth: if you don’t shift YOUR energy first, you’ll recreate the same dynamic with the next partner. Remember the law of polarity? Your masculine energy – the doing, controlling, managing – creates a vacuum that pulls in feminine energy partners. You’re not unlucky. You’re magnetic to what matches your frequency.

The Real Question Isn’t “Why Is He Like This?”

It’s: “Why is it so hard for me to soften, receive, and trust?”

If you’re honest, letting go probably terrifies you. What if everything falls apart? What if you soften and he still doesn’t step up? These fears live in your nervous system – they’re survival patterns, not logic.

But your nervous system is creating your reality. When you’re locked in survival mode, you literally cannot receive masculine energy. It’s not that the right man isn’t out there – your system isn’t calibrated to receive him.

This isn’t mindset work – it’s nervous system work. Your body needs to learn it’s safe to receive, to trust, to soften. This is why I created The Unwavering Creator 7-Day Challenge: to expand your capacity to receive masculine energy, abundance, and manifestations from a place of I AM awareness, not survival.

You don’t need to fix him. You need to remember who you are.

When you do this work, one of two things happens: he naturally rises into his masculine in response to your shift, or you attract a different caliber of man. Either way, the exhaustion ends – because you’re no longer carrying everything alone.

The Power Is – and Always Was – Yours

Understanding the signs a man is in his feminine energy in relationships isn’t just about identifying what’s “wrong” with your partner. It’s about recognizing that you are the common denominator in all your relationships, and therefore, you hold the power to shift everything.

If you’ve recognized these signs in your current or past partners, you’ve just discovered something profound: you’ve been unconsciously creating this dynamic through your own energetic state. Your nervous system, locked in survival mode and masculine energy, has been magnetizing exactly what matches that frequency.

But here’s the beautiful truth: what you created unconsciously, you can now recreate consciously.

You don’t need to wait for him to change and you don’t need to have another exhausting conversation about “stepping up.” You don’t need to leave and hope the next man will be different. All you need to shift your internal state from survival to creation, from masculine to feminine, from controlling to receiving.

This isn’t about becoming weak or passive – it’s about remembering your true power as a creator. It’s about expanding your nervous system’s capacity to feel safe while receiving.

If you’re ready to make that shift, The Unwavering Creator 7-Day Challenge will guide you through the nervous system expansion and I AM awareness practices that create this transformation from the inside out. Because ultimately, a fulfilling relationship isn’t something you find – it’s something you create by becoming the version of yourself who can receive it.

The exhaustion ends. The constant doing ends. The feeling of carrying everything on your shoulders ends. Not because you found the “right” person, but because you became the right version of yourself.

A fulfilling relationship isn’t something you find – it’s something you create by becoming the version of yourself who can receive it. This is the work. And it starts with you.